Weigh in day….a sts today. Don’t know why as I walked everyday, tracked everything and I believe ate well. But it what it is.
Went to the pool this morning and water walked. I so enjoyed that. My walking buddy is away for a week and this week is going to HOT 🥵 so early pool days for me all this week.
Son messaged me today. Could I help him out with food till payday he asked? Yeah I suppose was my response. He called around this afternoon and I said what happened to your money this week? Wellllllllllll that went down like a lead balloon, he raised his voice to me and stormed out ranting. I don’t know how to handle the situation this time. I don’t want to see him go down the same path he did last time. He spent his weeks wages in two days again…and asked for money for fuel. We can’t do that, in the long run it’s not helping him and he’ll come to rely on us and expect us to help him, even though we’ve told him we can’t.
Hubby doesn’t want to help him at all, he so angry and disappointed that he has gone and done this to himself. I’m so upset and stressed out and in total shock….and want to help him but know he’s only going to take advantage of it. He decided to do this to himself. He decided to keep using and move out.
It’s all breaking my heart. 💔
Tonight I want food, I want chocolate. And I’ve given in to it.
First of all, a maintain on the scales is a victory! Especially when you are going through such a huge time of stress!
ReplyDeleteI was married before and my ex father in law was in a rough place very much like your son. I was torn up about it when he asked for help. So I did supply food. But I didn't supply stuff that he really 'liked'...or rather I gave him some basic foods that would fill his belly. I gave him canned sweet potatoes, canned tuna, canned corn. Stuff like that I supplied stuff that would fill his belly though and allow me to rest easy knowing that he had food and wouldn't go hungry because of 'me' (yes, I know he would have gone hungry due to his choices...but you know what I mean). He apparently didn't like my choices because he didn't ask again and furthermore, after he vacated the property (which we owned)...and yes he vacated at the strong advice of the police....I found all of the canned goods that I gave him. He didn't open a single can of food. He wanted it HIS way.
Why I tell you that is to maybe give you an idea to help but not enable...if that makes any sense. Either way, you've got my support as you go through this! Keep your chin up!
I am so sorry. Please know this is not your fault. He has made his choices. I will pray he changes this latest choice & finds his way back.
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